Condoms: to don or not to don, the eternal question...

So, I'm supposed to be reviewing Hostile Makeover by Wendy Wax. Which, by the way is a seriously good book- light, funny, kinda kicky... go read it already. But the problem is that I'm still stuck on Blindsided by Leslie Lafoy, which I reviewed like a week ago. Why the fixation you ask? I mean, didn't the book recieve a 4 star rating at TRR? Well, yeah, but somthing big is bothering me. The hero tries to use a condom and the heroine stops him... yes, she is the irresponsible one.

Now, I'm sure by now you're wondering why a girl can't be a bit irresponsible. Well, first of unsafe sex isn't irresponsible, it's fucking stupid, mmkay? Secondly, this isn't a girl. The heroine who thinks condoms are a "bummer" is a 42 year old mom. Her reasoning is "my tubes are tied and I haven't been with anyone in years"... well, the guy she's fucking used to screw groupies, okay. She never once asks his history or to see test results. Ladies, aren't we smarter than that?

And writers, haven't we all decided either to be responsible, kill the mood and cover the cock? Or at least, just not mention it and assume it's been done. What the hell? Why are we suddenly saying hey no condom is fine? DO you know who is reading this? Let me give you a hint: I read my first romance novel at age 9. I learned what cunnilingus was from a Silhouette Desire for god's sake. Come on! Don't we have a responsibilty to either promote safe sex or show the consequences of a bad night? You don't have to give the heroine syphillis, but let her realize she's fucked up and true love isn't an HIV preventative. Be responsible or don't write sex, people, period.